How do you build resilience over and over?
How do you bounce back when you whacked again (And again (and again))?
In this short video I give one very powerful, science-backed technique to keep you and your team energised, focussed and productive - despite the mayhem.
I prepared this video in the middle of 2020 - I had put it away as I thought we wouldn't need it again but as the world continues to face ongoing adversities and many challenges it remains relevant (the transcript is below).
It's one of the first videos I ever shot so not great quality but the message is pertinent and applies now more than ever.
If you would like to know more about building the resilience of yourself or your team - so you can bounce back better - check out the link to the free resources: https://www.crispopp.com/blog/resilience-freebies
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How do you be Resilient in the Face of a Repeated or Ongoing Adversity (Like Another Lockdown
Transcript:
How do you bounce back when a challenge comes back a second or a third time, like an extended or a second lockdown? During the first lockdown there was a little bit of novelty. you didn't have to travel to work and you could probably work with a lot less distractions. And what you might have found is that your normal level of functioning was up here, Covid hit, we bounced down, then we bounced back up. and then, the second one hit, and now you're somewhere right down here. and if you're feeling like that - pretty low - you're not alone.
I rang a colleague of mine - it was a video call because I need to talk through some visuals with them. They were a graphic designer. I rang them recently. and when they answered the phone, it was all dark at their end. and I was like,
“Why is it dark at your end?”,
they said, "Well, I'm still in bed".
“Well, what are you doing in bed -it's 10:30 in the morning? I've known you for 20 years. You've never done this”
and they said, "The world is not as I want it to be. I just didn't want to face it.”
So what do you do when it's like that?
Well, what we know from resilience, and I teach a resilience model called the Resilience Compass. what we know is that resilient people accept their circumstances exactly as they are - it's like building a house. You can't build a house without strong foundations, and that means accepting where you are. So there are a few facets to that, there's accepting yourself where you are physically, financially, where the businesses is … but the hard part is accepting your emotions exactly as they are.
If you can do that, if you can accept them, and if you can label them, then you can shift them as they say, ‘name them to tame them’. And the trick in accepting your emotional circumstances is the more nuanced you can be about it, the quicker you'll work through them.
So not just saying "I feel gray", but what shade of gray do you feel?
Not just saying that you feel a bit down, but what is it about it that's making you feel down? I know for myself, in the first lockdown, I had a bit more of a sense of loss. An old world had gone, but this time is all a bit different for me. It's a little bit more about this endless long thing that I have to get through. A little bit of drudgery, a little bit of Groundhog Day, a little bit of repetition to it and is kind of a low sense of energy.
Now, having said that, I have good days as well. But what I know is that if you can name the emotions you're having, you tame them, name them to tame them, and the more nuanced you can be in how you label them, the better. You can tell other people about them if you want. If you do tell someone, make sure you tell someone who's not going to argue with how you're feeling. Cause, that's just how you feel. You can journal about them. but the main thing is to dig in there and just understand, just sort of savour the feeling that you have.
Get a real sense for it. And my advice around all of this is - it'll be okay. I'm not saying it's okay to be in this terrible situation, but you'll be okay. You'll have the feelings, and just like the weather, (and if you're from Melbourne, you know what that's like), just like the weather, they'll change and they'll change more quickly .. and you'll shift through them. If you can name them, to tame them.
So that's my advice about being in an extended period of lockdown or second (third or fourth) lockdown or an ongoing adversity. My wish for you today is that you can do that and that you can have the best day you can have under the circumstances.